Life Lately
Jenna Reed
The other day I was talking with a friend about the early days of YouTube and social media. I was mentally yoinked back to the days of Tumblr (back when tumblarity was still a thing) and, before that, LiveJournal (the original, where I would spill my guts and share all about my day as a 13-16 year old complete with the perfect emoji to indicate my “mood”). It honestly left me wishing for that kind of real-time “journaling”-like blogging again.
Maybe with less TMI details, but something to look back on and reflect where I was compared to where I am.
Lately, life has felt super up-in-the-air. I wish that I could slow down for more than a weekend here and there. I wish it were possible to take some kind of a gap year (or even half-year!) to figure things out, like some do either before or after college. Alas, the bills, responsibilities, and need for health insurance are very different in your mid-30s than your early 20s.
I’ve been fully rejected for both my dream job and all lower-level positions that may help me someday reach my dream job and I’m burnt out from applying. At this point I just want to find a whole new career, one that might suit my life and interests a bit better, but I don’t know what that might be anymore.
We’ve essentially abandoned our home search - not only because everything is beyond anything we could possibly afford, but even while looking at homes beyond our means, they’re not the style we’re interested in. Our old little apartment suits us fine for now though, and we can still afford it.
So many of the homes for sale around us have been renovated in the same cookie-cutter way, either with additions or full demo-remodels that have extended the cute bungalows that once were to the very edge of the property. There’s nothing wrong with this kind of home if it’s what you want, but it isn’t what we want and it isn’t our style. Sometimes I worry that my ideal home will cease to exist, that they’ll all be changed instead of restored, if I don’t hurry up and find it.
I’ve been trying to focus on all of the good I have around me… I’m honestly grateful for the apartment we have, in its prime location with rent control. We can’t own it, but we enjoy it immensely. While I wouldn’t say that I’m happy with my job right now, I am happy with my health insurance and I’ve been trying to make the most of the time I do have off. I’ve tried over the past year to spend as much time as possible outdoors, going for more hikes, walks at the beach, and trips to the lake in the Adirondacks.
I’m grateful for my family, my cats, and our new superstar pup named Paco who came into our lives just when we needed him the most.
Shifting focus like this really does help me amidst a world of feeling lost. Indulging in simple pleasures like an amazing candle or splurging on the nicer bottle of wine instead of the cheaper option can make the day-to-day feel special as well, as material and superficial as that may sound.